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So you can't find someone special to love. All the good ones are taken, all men
are pigs, all women are trouble, I'm not handsome/pretty enough, etc. That's a load of crap. Let me fill you in on a couple of things. First off, we all start out with the same size bag of raw materials. What attributes you lack in one area, you have excess in another. What you do with the talents and abilities God gives you determines what happens to you in life. |
Secondly, ask yourself what type of person will be satisfying to you five years down the road. Do you REALLY want to live with a woman who has really big boobs, but can't hold your attention in a conversation? Is it really important that your husband have a hairy chest when he can't hold down a job? People say, "Oh, I'm just playing the field." Well buddy, while you're busy sowing your oats, there are others out there snapping up the ones that are good to marry! Why do you think all the good 30-year olds are taken? It's because marriage minded people got busy early in the game!
Thirdly, realize that God made everyone to be a wonderful person. Every single person out there has attributes that make them special. Sure, they might not be a Colt model, or appear in next month's Vogue, but why does that matter? If you ask anyone who's happily married why they fell in love with their spouse, not many will say, "Because they're great in the sack!" They have realized that external beauty fades over time, but internal beauty is protected from aging. Her boobs will sag, his chest hair will turn grey. Count on it.
How will Mr. or Mrs. Right find you? Are you available? Are you in the public eye? Then get out there! Volunteer on the weekends or after work. Get active in your church. Join the Y. You won't meet anyone new while you're sitting on the couch in your underwear eating potato chips.
What's that? You say that you're already out there, looking for love in the singles bars? News flash. Bars are dimly lit, smoky little rooms filled with people desperate to escape their real lives for a few hours. Do you really think you're going to find Mrs Right over a bottle of gin? I don't think so. It sometimes does happen, but your odds of winning the lottery are better.
There are hundreds of volunteer organizations in every city, places where you can meet other like-minded people. And think about it. Who goes to charity organized events? Solid, stable, nice folks. And some of them even have big boobs or hairy chests. :-) Stay out of the bars, unplug your TV, and get busy in your community. Notice how many people involved with charity organizations are happily married. Does this tell you something? Shoot, even if you don't find someone right off the bat, at least you'll be busy doing something productive instead of sitting on your can all evening long.
Do you sleep with people you casually date? Stop. If that offends them, you don't need to be dating them anyway, since they're not marriage material. In 20 years you won't be able to perform anyway, so you'd better be certain that your relationship isn't based on sex!
That's it in a nutshell. Recognize your needs, prioritize your life, get out where you can meet people, and KEEP IT ZIPPED!
If you have any comments or suggestions, I'd like to hear them!